Update.
I’ve been avoiding posting after that last post. Things did not go as we had hoped, and J. did not join our family after all. I am not going to go into reasons here. It has been an emotional ride for all of us. It was heartwrenching to have to say no, but we feel it was the best decision for her as well as for us, and we are glad to have been able to make the decision before J. knew we were considering adopting her–she only knew she was staying with us for a few days while her foster family was out of town. We are getting a little tired of the roller coaster, but not ready to get off yet. We’re still hoping for a “next time” that works out a little better. I think this will be all I write about it. So now you’ve been updated, world, and I can get back to posting random nonsense at will without feeling like I need to confront this topic when I come here. 